The Love Attitudes Scale


Color wheel theory of love

This test has six sections to help you learn what your style of loving is. answer how strongly you agree with each statement as it relates to your current relationship (with a lover, significant other, or spouse). If you aren't in a relationhip right now, think of your ideal relationship and your beliefs about relationships in general. To complete the test, indicate the extent to which you agree with each item using the scale below.

4
Strongly Agree
3
Agree
2
Neutral
1
Disgree
0
Strongly Disgree

After you take the test you will learn what your love style is. The subscores you will have when you're done represent different styles of loving: Eros, Ludus, Storge, Pragma, Mania and Agape. These categories - and these Greek words for love - will be explained when you're done.

Part 1: Love Statements


1. My partner and I were attracted to each other immediately when we first met.
2. My partner and I have the right physical "chemistry" between us.
3. Our lovemaking is very intense and satisfying.
4. I feel that my partner and I were meant for each other.
5. My partner and I became physically or emotionally involved rather quickly.
6. My partner and I really understand each other.
7. My partner fits my ideal standards of physical attractiveness.



8. I try to keep my partner a little uncertain about my commitment to them.
9. I believe that what my partner doesn't know about me won't hurt them.
10. I have sometimes had to keep two of my partners from finding out about each other.
11. I can get over love affairs pretty easily and quickly.
12. My partner would get upset if they knew of some of the things I've done with other people.
13. When my partner gets too dependent on me, I want to back off a little.
14. I enjoy playing the "game of love" with a number of different partners.



15. It is hard to say exactly where the friendship ends and love begins.
16. I cannot love unless I've first had caring for a while.
17. I still have good friendships with almost everyone with whom I have ever been involved in a love relationship.
18. The best kind of love grows out of a long relationship.
19. It is hard to say exactly when my partner and I fell in love.
20. Love is really a deep friendship, not a mysterious, mystical emotion.
21. My most satisfying love relationships have developed from good relationships.



Part 2: Love Behaviors


22. I consider what a person is going to become in life before I commit myself to them.
23. I try to plan my life carefully before choosing a partner.
24. It is best to love someone with a similar background.
25. A main consideration in choosing a partner is how they reflect on my family.
26. An important consideration in choosing a partner is whether or not they will be a good parent.
27. One consideration in choosing a partner is how they will reflect on my career.
28. Before getting very involved with anyone, I try to figure out how compatible their hereditary background is with mine in case we ever have children.



29. When things aren't right with my partner and me, my stomach gets upset.
30. When my love affairs break up, I get so depressed that I have even thought of self-harm or suicide.
31. Sometimes I get so excited about being in love that I can't sleep.
32. When my partner doesn't pay attention to me, I feel sick all over.
33. When I am in love, I have trouble concentrating on anything else.
34. I cannot relax if I suspect that my partner is with someone else.
35. If my partner ignores me for a while, I sometimes do stupid things to get their attention back.



36. I try to use my own strength to help my partner through difficult times.
37. I would rather suffer myself than let my partner suffer.
38. I cannot be happy unless I place my partner's happiness before my own.
39. I am usually willing to sacrifice my own wishes to let my partner achieve theirs.
40. Whatever I own is my partners to use as they choose.
41. When my partner gets angry with me, I still love them fully and unconditionally.
42. I would endure all things for the sake of my partner.



Scoring & Evaluation


For each of the subsections, your score appears below. These subsection scores are associated with three main love styles that are related to how you feel.

Eros
(passionate)

Ludus
(playful)

Storge
(friendship)

The three subsection scores below are secondary styles that are related to how you act.

Pragma
(practical)

Mania
(intense)

Agape
(selfless)

The range for each subscore is from 0 through 28.

Identify your love style by finding the highest score in the first set and the highest score in the second set of love styles.

What do your love style scores mean? These love styles may change over a lifetime, but not always. These categories give you a sense of the kind of lover you tend to be - even if you aren't in a relationship right now. If you are in a relationship, they also help describe what you are like and how you behave in that relationship. Consider asking your partner to take this test, too, and then see how well you match.

What do these categories mean? the terms are derived from six Greek words for different kinds of love.

The next three types are subtypes that reflect how you behave regarding your feelings.

If you take this test with your partner, matching is ideal. If your scores for each "love type" are less than 12 points apart, you should consider that matching.

From Clyde Hendrick and Susan Hendrick, "A Theory and Method of Love" (Department of Psychology, Texas Tech University), Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 50 (1986): 392-402. Copyright ©1986 American Psychological Association. Reprinted with permission of the authors and APA. The authors also have a revised, relationship-specific version.

This test is from the book The Love Test by Virginia Rutter and Pepper Schwartx, Ph.D. To read reviews or buy this book from Amazon.com, click on the book's title.